EMDR Therapy For ADHD

Healing Emotional Wounds and Reducing Shame

Reframing Negative Beliefs and Strengthening Self-Esteem

Enhancing Emotional Regulation and Resilience

Increasing Focus and Engagement in Therapy

Understanding EMDR Therapy for ADHD

Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy is a structured and evidence-based approach originally developed for trauma and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). In recent years, clinicians have begun to explore how EMDR can also support individuals with ADHD, particularly in addressing the emotional and psychological consequences that often accompany the condition.

While ADHD is not caused by trauma, many people with ADHD experience repeated negative feedback, rejection, and misunderstanding throughout their lives. This can lead to internalized shame, chronic stress, and self-limiting beliefs. EMDR therapy offers a way to help process these experiences, reduce emotional intensity, and promote healing and self-compassion.

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Why EMDR Can Be Beneficial for People with ADHD

People with ADHD frequently struggle with rejection sensitivity, low self-esteem, and negative self-beliefs that develop from years of criticism, academic challenges, or social difficulties. EMDR therapy provides a structured and gentle method to help reprocess these experiences and change the way they are stored in the brain.

Through this process, individuals often notice:

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    A reduction in emotional reactivity to criticism or rejection

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    A softer, more compassionate internal dialogue

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    Greater self-acceptance and confidence

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    Improved emotional regulation and resilience

EMDR therapy does not “cure” ADHD — rather, it helps address the emotional pain and secondary trauma that often accompany living with a misunderstood neurotype.

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Why EMDR Can Be Beneficial for People with ADHD

According to the EMDR International Association (EMDRIA), EMDR can be effectively adapted to meet the needs of clients with ADHD. Therapists often modify bilateral stimulation methods, shorten processing sessions, and incorporate grounding strategies to maintain engagement and focus during treatment.

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    ADDitude Magazine highlights that EMDR can help individuals with ADHD process memories linked to shame, failure, or rejection, supporting emotional healing and improved self-perception.

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    Emerging case studies have also shown that EMDR may help people with ADHD who have experienced adverse childhood experiences or trauma, although larger-scale research is still developing.

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    A systematic review published in the National Library of Medicine (PMC9961224) notes promising outcomes for EMDR in neurodevelopmental conditions when adapted appropriately for attentional and cognitive differences.

Overall, while further research is needed, clinical evidence and practitioner experience suggest that EMDR can play a valuable role in improving emotional wellbeing for individuals with ADHD.

How EMDR Therapy Is Adapted for ADHD

EMDR follows an eight-phase protocol, but for individuals with ADHD, certain adaptations are often made to ensure therapy remains accessible and effective.

Adaptation

Phase

ADHD-Related Challenge

1. History & Assessment

Fragmented memories, self-blame, shame

Use visual aids, timelines, and guided questioning to organize experiences

2. Preparation & Stabilization

Difficulty relaxing or focusing

Integrate physical grounding, sensory tools, and movement-based strategies

3–4. Assessment & Reprocessing

Distractibility, working memory challenges

Use engaging bilateral stimulation, shorter sessions, and frequent check-ins

5. Installation of Positive Beliefs

Focus drift

Reinforce new beliefs through repetition and multisensory techniques

6. Body Scan

Limited interoception

Provide gentle prompts and body awareness exercises

7–8. Closure & Reevaluation

Difficulty winding down

Use grounding tools, safety planning, and follow-up resources

These modifications help individuals with ADHD stay present, regulate their emotions, and fully benefit from EMDR’s reprocessing effects.

1. History & Assessment

Phase: Fragmented memories, self-blame, shame

ADHD Related Challenge: Use visual aids, timelines, and guided questioning to organize experiences

2. Preparation & Stabilization

Phase: Difficulty relaxing or focusing

ADHD Related Challenge: Integrate physical grounding, sensory tools, and movement-based strategies

3–4. Assessment & Reprocessing

Phase: Distractibility, working memory challenges

Example Exercises: Use engaging bilateral stimulation, shorter sessions, and frequent check-ins

5. Installation of Positive Beliefs

Phase: Focus drift

ADHD Related Challenge: Reinforce new beliefs through repetition and multisensory techniques

6. Body Scan

Phase: Limited interoception

ADHD Related Challenge: Provide gentle prompts and body awareness exercises

7–8. Closure & Reevaluation

Phase: Difficulty winding down

ADHD Related Challenge: Use grounding tools, safety planning, and follow-up resources

Who May Benefit from EMDR Therapy

EMDR therapy can be particularly helpful for individuals who:

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    Have experienced repeated rejection, failure, or criticism related to ADHD symptoms

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    Struggle with persistent shame or negative self-talk

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    Experience emotional flashbacks or overwhelming reactions to current stressors

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    Want to heal the emotional wounds connected to past experiences and move forward with greater confidence

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What to Expect During EMDR Therapy

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    Initial Consultation and Assessment – The therapist gathers background information and identifies areas for healing and growth.

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    Resource Building – Clients learn grounding and coping techniques to ensure emotional stability.

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    Target Identification and Reprocessing – Distressing memories or beliefs are identified and gently processed using bilateral stimulation.

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    Integration and Follow-Up – New insights and beliefs are reinforced and integrated into daily life.

Clients often report feeling more emotionally balanced, self-assured, and better equipped to handle challenges associated with ADHD.

A Neurodiversity-Affirming Approach

EMDR therapy for ADHD is most effective when delivered in a neurodiversity-affirming environment. This means recognising ADHD as a valid neurotype rather than a flaw, and approaching therapy with empathy, creativity, and respect for individual differences.

Therapists trained in both ADHD and EMDR understand that attention fluctuations, hyperfocus, and sensory sensitivities can shape how therapy unfolds. Sessions are paced flexibly, allowing clients to work safely and effectively at their own rhythm.

Complementary to ADHD Treatment

EMDR therapy complements — rather than replaces — other ADHD interventions such as medication, coaching, or cognitive-behavioural strategies. By addressing the emotional burdens of ADHD, EMDR can make it easier for individuals to engage with practical supports and thrive in daily life.

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For those ready to explore EMDR as part of their ADHD treatment journey, working with a therapist experienced in both trauma and neurodiversity can make all the difference. EMDR can help individuals release emotional pain, build resilience, and reconnect with a sense of self-worth — creating space for lasting growth and wellbeing.

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Our Specialised ADHD & Autism Therapy Programmes

Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)

EMDR has been shown to reduce trauma symptoms, which are more prevalent in neurodivergent individuals due to social and sensory stressors (Lobregt-van Buuren et al., 2019). This therapy helps process difficult experiences that may be contributing to current challenges.

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    Processing of traumatic experiences

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    Reduced anxiety

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    Improved confidence

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    Decreased emotional triggers

Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)

CBT helps individuals manage anxiety, low mood, and emotional regulation challenges commonly associated with ADHD and Autism. Research by Sukhodolsky et al. (2013) demonstrates its effectiveness in developing practical coping strategies and reshaping challenging thought patterns.

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    Improved anxiety management

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    Better emotional regulation

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    Enhanced problem-solving skills

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    Increased self-awareness

Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT)

DBT is especially effective for emotional dysregulation and impulsivity—key features of ADHD and Autism (Fleischhaker et al., 2011). This approach combines acceptance and change strategies to help clients develop mindfulness, distress tolerance, and interpersonal effectiveness.

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    Enhanced emotional regulation

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    Reduced impulsivity

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    Improved relationships

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    Better stress management techniques

Dyadic Developmental Psychotherapy

This attachment-focused therapy strengthens the parent-child bond and develops co-regulation skills. Particularly helpful for younger children, dyadic therapy builds emotional resilience and improves family relationships through enhanced understanding and connection.

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    Stronger parent-child connections

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    Improved attunement

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    Enhanced co-regulation skills

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    More secure attachment patterns

Systemic Family Therapy

Supporting the whole family system, this approach improves communication and reduces stress by addressing relational patterns that affect everyone (Carr, 2019). It helps families understand how ADHD and Autism impact family dynamics and develop strategies that work for everyone.

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    Improved family communication

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    Reduced household stress

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    Better understanding of neurodivergent needs

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    Practical strategies for family harmony

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Who Can Benefit?

Our therapy programs are designed for:

  • Children with ADHD and/or Autism

  • Teenagers navigating school and social challenges

  • Adults seeking better symptom management

  • Parents and carers looking for effective support strategies

  • Families adjusting to a new diagnosis

  • Individuals with or without formal diagnosis who identify with ADHD or Autism traits

Why Choose Our Programmes?

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Evidence-Based: backed by scientific research

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Family-Centered: We support  parents, carers, and family members

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Convenient: Available online via secure video call

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Specialised: therapists are trained in neurodevelopmental conditions

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Flexible: 12-week programs booked in manageable 6-session blocks

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Book your first appointment by selecting a date and time below and filling out some quick details.

We book our therapy sessions in groups of 6, your remaining 5 appointments will be scheduled with your therapist in your first appointment.

Got a Question?

Not sure about booking an appointment just yet? Need more info about the process? Ask us anything using our contact form below!

You can also call us on 020 39897789 or email at  info@privateadhd.com

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FAQs

A few of our frequently asked questions about our ADHD and Autism Therapies

How do I know which therapy is right for me or my family member?

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During our initial consultation, we'll assess your specific needs and goals to recommend the most appropriate therapy approach. Many clients benefit from a combination of approaches tailored to their unique situation.

Is a 12-week program really necessary?

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While the program runs for 12 weeks, we split it into two manageable 6-session blocks. This structure provides the consistency needed for lasting change, especially for neurodivergent individuals who often benefit from routine and structured support.

Do you offer in-person sessions?

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Currently, all our sessions are delivered via secure video call. This allows us to provide flexible, high-quality support without travel, which works particularly well for clients with sensory sensitivities or busy schedules.

Will these therapies work without medication?

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Our therapeutic approaches can be effective both as standalone treatments and as complements to medication. We work with your existing medical providers to ensure coordinated care.

How are parents and family members involved?

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Depending on the therapy type and client's age, family involvement varies. For children and teens, parents are often integral to the therapy process. For adults, family participation is optional but encouraged when beneficial.

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